Every day you can read what people think of the big news of the day. Today: this is what you say on our reaction platform NUjij about the punishment you can receive as a man if you secretly take off the condom during sex. A 28-year-old Rotterdammer was given a three-month suspended prison sentence for this.
“I read quite a lot of aggrieved reactions that women should also be prosecuted for lying about pill use. However, these are two completely different things.”
“Do I think it’s neat when a woman lies about taking the pill because she wants to get pregnant? No, absolutely not! I really don’t think this is possible. However, when a man secretly takes off the condom, it can have major physical consequences for the woman. Pregnant and/or a venereal disease.”
“Intentionally lying about pill use, there are never any physical consequences for the man. No one can be blamed for the fact that a condom can tear. As a man, if you want to be sure that you don’t want to become a father, it seems wise to always use a condom. even in a steady relationship.”
“Good thing, finally. But I think they miss the opportunity to make another form of such an action punishable under it: the deliberate discontinuation of contraception (such as the pill) for a non-medical reason, with the purpose of forcing a pregnancy without the knowledge of the partner.”
“This is important as long as obligations and commitments flow from being the father, as is the case in most countries like ours. Men may experience stealthing legislation as unbalanced if this aspect is not highlighted, in principle no subject at all is (as in: tends to protect the opposite gender, and ‘a woman who secretly removes the condom from her partner is also a perpetrator’ is just not enough, in the presence of such contraceptive actions).”
“Don’t think I’m the only one thinking about this, and think there should be a catalyst to highlight and include this aspect. The provability is just as bad, is principle/signal issue…”
“What strikes me most about a large part of the comments is that many immediately grab for ‘but then the man should not pay alimony if the woman lies about pill use’.”
“As if one evil justifies the other evil, without looking further at the consequences for man or woman. Both actions lack voluntary and enthusiastic consent, so neither can be justified.”
“However, the consequences for a woman who becomes pregnant against her will are many times greater than for a man who becomes a father against his will.”
“And I certainly believe that should also be considered in this one, apart from any STDs.”
“I believe that many people miss the point that it is a violation of physical integrity and that does not play a role in lying about the use of the pill. That it can sometimes have the same consequences does not matter here. Of course lying about this is morally reprehensible, but not punishable. If you don’t trust it as a man, you use additional contraception.”
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